My sparkle outfit wasn't all that amazing last year, I can't really remember what I wore. I remember exactly what I wore to Manchester Pride though :)

Anyway, this year will be different (maybe) I'm going to come up with an outfit to remember, and these pics on flickr I stumbled across earlier today gave me an idea... RollerGirl! The only problem is I can't really roller skate, but it can't be that hard. They're going on ebay for around £30-40. Would they let me in the clubs with those on? Would I even fit through the doors?

On second thoughts it's a stupid idea, I'll just go as a cheerleader or a slapper or something (check out the old tranny on the left!).

Selina:

|(check out the old tranny on the left!).

Sorry Jessica, I think you've got your left and right mixed up here. 

Jessica:

I meant the one in the plaid school girl skirt 

Cathii Scott:

The one on the left might pass on a dark night, but the one on the right should really do something about that shadow... and definitely needs to do something about that adams apple. And don't get me started on that outfit....ewwwwwww.... 

jonny:

your a tranny 

 

I was just flicking around flickr, as I seem to waste an increasing amount of time doing these days, and I read a t-girls comment that said something a long the lines of "if only I had been born a woman, my life would be so different". I know a lot of people feel this way, they talk about being "trapped" in a mans body, unable to do all the things they've always wanted to do. I kind of picture them sat in an empty grey room on an old tea chest eating a can of cold beans with a stubbly face and an army haircut, when they could have been a hollywood actress with a string of wealthy husbands, appearing on the cover of every glamour mag. We can never know for sure, but I can't help thinking that for a lot of people, their lives wouldn't have been very different at all. As they say, life is what you make it.

Maybe this could be a bit of a meme, what do you think your life would have been like if you were born a genetic female? (If you are one, try it the other way around)

As for me? I think I'd probably be where I am now, I could imagine I'd still be a programmer (just like the other female programmers in our office, they're pretty cool) I'd probably have similar friends to the ones I have, except without the large number of gay and tranny friends. I'm sure I'd have some gay/trans friends, as I would still be quite liberal and open minded (it's in the family). I would probably have still been bullied at school, although it would have been vicious verbal bulling from girls instead of the violent kind from boys. I still wouldn't have done my homework, and scraped through exams on a bit of luck and some common sense. In fact, the only difference would probably be that I'd wear skirts a lot more! I definitely wouldn't shun an opportunity to draw attention to myself! It's hard to do that as a boy while still keeping within the bounds of socially acceptable and safe.

So do you think being born the opposite gender would really have changed your life? Or do you think you'd still be just you anyway?

Becky EnVérité:

I dunno. It's hard to think about such a fundamental change, cos it would basically make you a different person. So that person would either have a very different life to the one you've had, or be very similar. It's all a bit arbitrary.

I think I'd have spent less money in Transformation, though. 

Emily S:

I think that the only big difference would have been a lot less soul searching with regard to what on earth is wrong with me. I've started my transition and I can already feel the difference in the amount of my (already meagre) brain power I have to divert to working it all out. Before, when I was in my "fighting it all" stage, I know I was overly preoccupied with trying to understand my gender and I made a few mistakes because of that. I can't help but feeling that not having dedicated so much time and energy to working that out would have made a difference.

On the flip side, I know that in several of the places I have worked, it would have been a great deal more difficult to carve out the career niche I have done had I been a natal female (I've found myself in some really misogynistic companies, unfortunately). I really cannot complain: I've lived a really good life as a man, even if I never wanted to be one. However, it doesn't stop me wondering, because wanting to live as a woman is something I've wanted for so many years. Now, I'm just going to see how that really feels!! :D 

Jane:

I've found that when ever I've seen a post or a forum entry which starts "If I was born..." it will normally be a whinge where the poster will blame all his or her ills on being born, rich/Swedish/in the 1940's/male/gifted at tennis.

As for being born the opposite sex, well I'm gonna pick up that meme and run with it.

Really interesting thought provoking post. 

Steph Angel:

If I'd been born female I'd probably have the biggest hands & feet on my street... For a girl anyway ;-) 

Connie Cox:

If I had been born a female.....jesus no idea what would have happened. However I doubt I would have gone to an all boys school...errr thats all really.
Hard to tell as there are too many variables that can change ones life. 

Joanna:

Same as Connie, All-boys school would not have happened and so a major part of my social circle would have been different.

And if I was female.. there'd be no Angels ;-) So I wouldn't know any of you lot! 

Pia aka charlie:

hey baby...if i'd been born a girl..i'd probably be a really butch dyke...yes i'm a bit of a girl now...but if it was the other way i'd probably want to be a boi....
and i think it would be as much fun...hhhhhmmmm lesbians ...if they didn't exist you have to create them ...as for the whole ts thing ,,,it cuts both ways...grass always being greener..and if i was born a girl...i'd probably spent alot less time hell bent on destroying myself.....
big love...pia/charlotte (bull dyke!) 

Chrissy Rogers:

Um... If I was born female I'd be my sister's role model instead of her childhood bully. I wouldn't have been a mercenary and I wouldn't have been an armed robber; instead I'd have worked in a mill or a typing pool and developed some horrible lung disease or an RSI. Oh, and I'd have had three kids by a man called Owen or Gareth.
I'll stick with who I've been, thanks... but thanks for the question. 

Cathii Scott:

If I had been born a girl I would probably have spent a lot less time in the shrinks office complaining that I wasn't born a girl. No, instead I might have been in his office complaining that I hadn't been born a boy. Who knows? 

Alli' Cat':

I don't think there's any way I'd still have been me.
If the 'people in lab-coats' are to be believed: my brain would be a different size and wired differently, its pathways would have been formed by a whole other set of circumstances (both nature and nurture, to say nothing of 'social conditioning'). In fact, I can't think of one aspect of my life that would be the same!
Oops, just thought of one: I'd still put my panties on one leg at a time ;) 

Kate Weston:

I'd have spent a lot more on tampons and a lot less on shaving foam. And I reckon I'd be a mother by now instead of a geek. 

Anonymous:

I wouldnt have wasted time thinking about what it would be like in another gender ,infact i'd be in topshop most of the time , conforming to a stereotype ,Freud and the like wouldn't even come into it 

Kath Adams:

as I'm a nurse, there's a good chance I'd have still been in a caring profession.

I'm damn sure I'd have got more sex in my teens & early twenties until marrying etc.

Although, that would mean I'd have to fancy boys [eww, yuck!]. If I'd fancied girls still, I'd probably have got even less sex as I'd have spent years worrying about being a lesbian rather than worry about being a crossdresser! Probably easier to come out as a lesbian as that would be there 100% instead of CD about 10%? 

Tiffany Welch:

hello i am new at this i was just saying hey
Love Always,
Tiffany 

Jayne:

If I had been born a girl I would probably have been pregnant at 15 married at 16 and divorced at 17 !! 

 

I've just learnt the offside rule! Thanks to this great explanation.

You're in a shoe shop, second in the queue for the till. Behind the shop assistant on the till is a pair of shoes which you have seen and which you must have. The female shopper in front of you has seen them also and is eyeing them with desire. Both of you have forgotten your purses. It would be totally rude to push in front of the first woman if you had no money to pay for the shoes.

The shop assistant remains at the till waiting. Your friend is trying on another pair of shoes at the back of the shop and sees your dilemma. She prepares to throw her purse to you. If she does so, you can catch the purse then walk round the other shopper and buy the shoes. At a pinch she could throw the purse ahead of the shopper and, whilst the purse is in flight, you could nip around the other shopper catch the purse and buy the shoes.

Always remembering that until the purse had actually been thrown it would be plain wrong to be forward of the other shopper.

Steph Angel:

I do believe that if you are level with the first shopper when the purse is thrown then technically you are still onside, and thus the shoes should be yours.

All depends on the linesperson of course... Do they have linespersons in shoe shops??? 

Selina:

Ah, but you must also remember, that you could be in front of the other woman and returning from the till having asked if they sell scotchguard. If you attempt to catch the purse before returning to your place, then that is wrong. If you ignore the purse, allow it to land on the floor, return to second place in the queue and THEN push in front of the woman picking up the purse as you do so, then that's ok.

All of which means that Steph and I have thoroughly confused Jessica now. 

Lizz:

I rather agre with Selina, except...

This only applies if you are using the football definition of offsides. I tend to think in terms of ice hockey: It matters only where your feet are. that is to say that should you consider the static offside line to be roughly in parallel to the till, with the gal in front of you straddling the line, you'd only be offsides if you caught the purse the with both of your feet in front of your rival. If you straddled this imaginary line, that is to say you had one foot in front of her and one behind her, then caught the purse, you'd be onside.

Of course, you could always let the purse bounce off her, then check her with your shoulder, separating the purse from her, and buy the desired shoes. (My recommendation, as at this point you'd not only be onside, but have a clear shot at the shoes and register.)

Hmm... did I help or hurt the confusion issue?

Lizz 

Amy:

wow, you're good Jess xxx 

Joanna:

But you can be in front of the other shopper. As long as you aren't interfering with the shoes. 

Debbie Huggins:

Please keep the checks clean and your sticks on the ice. Make sure the purse has been thrown before stepping pass lady and receiving the purse to purchase shoes. 

 

I've been pretty quiet on here for a while. I've just come back from a week on the mountain, my first time out boarding since breaking my foot last year! I have to say I was pretty nervous heading out there, I hadn't done anywhere near enough to get in shape for it, and I was going out with a friend who is a fitness nut and has already had one week out this season and two weeks more than me last season! So I knew it was going to be hard work keeping up.

The first day I bashed the crap out of myself, woke up the next day unable to move, but managed to drag myself back up the mountain and carry on. The weather was awful, you couldn't see a thing. We went out with our chalet host who took us up to one of the peaks then on a 10 minute hike along a ridge through waist deep powder, then as we were strapping in he says "make sure you don't go that way, there's a f**k off big cliff and you'll die". So we went off the other way and I quickly found myself lodged in a tree, the others disappeared off while I scrabbled out of the branches, being laughed at for 5 minutes by some guy sat off a few metres away. My only comfort was watching a skier disappear down a hole upside down (because the trees catch the snow, beneath them there is often a hole that goes down to the ground about two metres below the snow).

The first 3 days was mostly that kind of thing (plus lots of wind burn on my face). Then the sun came out and I saw the mountains for the first time! (lots of sun burn on the wind burn) It started to get fun then, we found some great off piste powder fields and spent a lot of time weaving around the trees. Spent the last day in the snow park and had my first ever go on a half pipe! :-D

I now have the most absurd tan lines on my face.

Sorry, this isn't tranny related in the slightest and is probably quite boring for most of you but I just felt like typing it!

Becky EnVérité:

I loved it. :-)

Glad your back safe! :-) 

Kat:

Hey so where were you? I;ve just back from the Brits in Laax and it's been a great week! Glad you had fun and are in one piece....go on the goggle tan! 

 

This was just before we went out in Birmingham a couple of weeks ago. Soph did my makeup and it was the first outing of this wig, I like it but I'm not sure it's really "me". I wanted something more like this, but that's the problem with buying off the internet, and I'm not really bothered enough to go to a proper wig shop and pay proper wig prices! lol